For those who are unaware of who Jon Acuff is, I hope you take some time to check him out. I am hoping this link works properly, it should be a quick profile on him. He is absolutely hilarious, ridiculously honest about the issues that come about when we take Christianity too seriously.
As we are working though the study "Compelled by Love" on Sunday mornings, and we learn more about the love of Christ and what it should mean to us, I am constantly reminded of what Jon talks about in this video. In reference to the rock that everyone is holding, how true is that? How often do we run into a person who is clearly clenching a rock, looking for an excuse to unleash it through the window of our Christian life? Why are we so willing to give them this excuse? Why don't we focus more on the love of Christ flowing out of us to those we come in contact with? Why not be transparent in our relationships, understanding that to do so will make us vulnerable?
Wednesday, April 20, 2011
Wednesday, April 6, 2011
4/6/2011- Homosexuality and Christianity
I want to preface this by saying something... I have friends who practice homosexuality and they are some of the best people I know. They are truthful, loving, nurturing, and absolutely beautiful people. Some of them attend church and are very active in the Body of Christ. My hope is to write this without judgment. I firmly believe that God loves these people just as much as He does me, and do not make any claims to know anything beyond that. I sincerely hope that any who read this will consider it as simple discussion on what is a very big topic in Christianity today...
I want to start by saying that I can't stand the fact that I have to put that kind of disclaimer on this. It just goes to show the harm done by "Christians" who long ago forgot that Christ came to love everyone. We as Christians today need to understand that it is not up to us to judge sinners. We are called to judge and support fellow believers and to confront them on their sins, and we are called to do so in a spirit of gentleness and humility. We are to understand our our shortcomings and weaknesses, and are to be prayerful in our pursuit of Christlike-ness. I want to start by apologizing to those who have been hurt by the actions and treatment given to some people (such as homosexuals) in the name of Christ.
That being said, here are my thoughts and convictions concerning homosexuality in Christianity:
A study was published several years ago (forgive me for forgetting where and when it was) in a scientific journal concerning the anatomical structure of the brain. They were comparing the brains of male and female humans to decipher the difference between the two in hopes of figuring out why men and women think and act differently. They were looking for structural deviations that would explain why our minds do not work the same way. While doing this research, they discovered that the brains of some men were much more feminine than others. It appeared that there were a few male brains that looked not fully female and yet not male. They inferred from this that these male brains would have belonged to someone who was more likely to have actions and thought processes that were much more effeminate than normal. They touted this discovery as proof that a person is born homosexual and that it is not a choice.
I remembered first hearing this information about 8 years ago in an Abnormal Psychology class. I was a Christian, but hadn't exactly been close to God for a little while. I was living with a guy who was a practicing homosexual, and as such had been bombarded with the idea of being born this way, etc. When I heard this lecture, I came out of it thinking that there was proof that my roommate was telling the truth. Ever since then, I have had this recurring conversation in my mind about the validity of these claims. Here in the last year or so, I feel like I am finally coming to a conclusion...
We are more than willing to accept, as Christians, that we are born sinners. We are born with two natures, as Paul says, the nature of God and our sin nature. We accept that we are born with certain tendencies and attributes that cause specific problems for us. Yet, we reject that a person could be born with a homosexual tendency. Why? The research here clearly shows that there are men born whose brains are much more female than male. Does that not prove that they have no choice to be gay?
No, it doesn't. Here are my convictions on this matter...
Homosexuality is a sin, plain and simple, the Bible is pretty explicit on this topic. It is listed right along side lying, cheating, slander, murder, stealing, jealousy, pride, and the list goes on and on. The argument that it is not a choice to engage in the sin of homosexuality can be substantiated by saying that none of us have a choice but to engage in whatever our sin of choice may be (to be clear, we have the choice, what we lack is the strength of faith to choose to abstain). This does not make it right or ok! I have heard some argue that it can't be a sin because they have felt this way since they were 6... yes, and I have been able to decode a person, manipulate them, and cause them harm with my words since I was somewhere around 6 also... still a sin. We are all born sinners, no matter the sin, they have been there since birth.
Other findings in the previously mentioned study were that in some brains, there were larger numbers of synapses in the pleasure centers of the brain, and in some, larger amygdalas, and so on... what this tells me is that there are anatomical differences in each of our brains that lead to our tendency towards different kinds of actions and thought processes. When we pervert these processes and actions, and when we choose to act on them in ways that are directly against the Word of God, they become sinful. The fact that we are wired a certain way does not dismiss our sin, it simply shows why were are more prone to certain types of sin.
We are called to admit these sins, recognize them, and repent of them. Salvation hinges on our acceptance that Christ died for our sins. He tells us to lay them down, turn from them, and run to Him. Even following salvation, we will continue to sin, God does not require perfection. He requires repentant souls. So, can a homosexual have salvation? I believe they can, but they have to be willing to admit that their actions are sinful, and truthfully turn away from them. They must ask forgiveness for their actions and attempt to live the life that Christ called us to... just like all the rest of us. There is no difference when it comes to salvation, sin is sin...
I want to start by saying that I can't stand the fact that I have to put that kind of disclaimer on this. It just goes to show the harm done by "Christians" who long ago forgot that Christ came to love everyone. We as Christians today need to understand that it is not up to us to judge sinners. We are called to judge and support fellow believers and to confront them on their sins, and we are called to do so in a spirit of gentleness and humility. We are to understand our our shortcomings and weaknesses, and are to be prayerful in our pursuit of Christlike-ness. I want to start by apologizing to those who have been hurt by the actions and treatment given to some people (such as homosexuals) in the name of Christ.
That being said, here are my thoughts and convictions concerning homosexuality in Christianity:
A study was published several years ago (forgive me for forgetting where and when it was) in a scientific journal concerning the anatomical structure of the brain. They were comparing the brains of male and female humans to decipher the difference between the two in hopes of figuring out why men and women think and act differently. They were looking for structural deviations that would explain why our minds do not work the same way. While doing this research, they discovered that the brains of some men were much more feminine than others. It appeared that there were a few male brains that looked not fully female and yet not male. They inferred from this that these male brains would have belonged to someone who was more likely to have actions and thought processes that were much more effeminate than normal. They touted this discovery as proof that a person is born homosexual and that it is not a choice.
I remembered first hearing this information about 8 years ago in an Abnormal Psychology class. I was a Christian, but hadn't exactly been close to God for a little while. I was living with a guy who was a practicing homosexual, and as such had been bombarded with the idea of being born this way, etc. When I heard this lecture, I came out of it thinking that there was proof that my roommate was telling the truth. Ever since then, I have had this recurring conversation in my mind about the validity of these claims. Here in the last year or so, I feel like I am finally coming to a conclusion...
We are more than willing to accept, as Christians, that we are born sinners. We are born with two natures, as Paul says, the nature of God and our sin nature. We accept that we are born with certain tendencies and attributes that cause specific problems for us. Yet, we reject that a person could be born with a homosexual tendency. Why? The research here clearly shows that there are men born whose brains are much more female than male. Does that not prove that they have no choice to be gay?
No, it doesn't. Here are my convictions on this matter...
Homosexuality is a sin, plain and simple, the Bible is pretty explicit on this topic. It is listed right along side lying, cheating, slander, murder, stealing, jealousy, pride, and the list goes on and on. The argument that it is not a choice to engage in the sin of homosexuality can be substantiated by saying that none of us have a choice but to engage in whatever our sin of choice may be (to be clear, we have the choice, what we lack is the strength of faith to choose to abstain). This does not make it right or ok! I have heard some argue that it can't be a sin because they have felt this way since they were 6... yes, and I have been able to decode a person, manipulate them, and cause them harm with my words since I was somewhere around 6 also... still a sin. We are all born sinners, no matter the sin, they have been there since birth.
Other findings in the previously mentioned study were that in some brains, there were larger numbers of synapses in the pleasure centers of the brain, and in some, larger amygdalas, and so on... what this tells me is that there are anatomical differences in each of our brains that lead to our tendency towards different kinds of actions and thought processes. When we pervert these processes and actions, and when we choose to act on them in ways that are directly against the Word of God, they become sinful. The fact that we are wired a certain way does not dismiss our sin, it simply shows why were are more prone to certain types of sin.
We are called to admit these sins, recognize them, and repent of them. Salvation hinges on our acceptance that Christ died for our sins. He tells us to lay them down, turn from them, and run to Him. Even following salvation, we will continue to sin, God does not require perfection. He requires repentant souls. So, can a homosexual have salvation? I believe they can, but they have to be willing to admit that their actions are sinful, and truthfully turn away from them. They must ask forgiveness for their actions and attempt to live the life that Christ called us to... just like all the rest of us. There is no difference when it comes to salvation, sin is sin...
Late Night in the ICU- Death
I was going to write this the other day when I got home from work, but I ended up letting it ramble around in my head for awhile to figure out what the point of writing about it would be... I think I got a better handle on it now, so here goes...
I lost a patient one day last week. That is something that, sadly, is not a rare occurrence for us, but it was the first one I have had in awhile. It is always interesting to watch family members as they try to decipher and deal with what is happening in their world when something like this happens. There is the expected tears and anger, sometimes there is celebration and gladness. This time, though, something different happened...
As is fairly normal, the family was in our small consultation room, speaking with the Chaplin. The Chaplin soon came and grabbed me out of doing the post-mortem care and said that the family wanted to speak to me so they could get a better idea of what happened. I am more than happy to have this dreadful conversation, it often allows people to cope better and can help with grieving. After I explained the rapid decline and subsequent departure of their loved one, the patient's child said something that floored me...
To paraphrase, "At least he knows the truth about death now"
After the family left, I talked more with the Chaplin and found that this father and child had talked recently about God. Neither of them knew for sure what they believed, and had come to the agreement that they wouldn't really know until they were dead, so they decided they'd just wait til then to decide. My heart broke for this family. It made me realize how very real this type of thinking is. And I just want to say something...
I envy the fact that this patient now knows, without a hint of a doubt, the truth about God. My beliefs and faith are strongly rooted in my convictions and in my day to day relationship with Christ, but I still have days when the doubts circle from the back of my mind to front and center. But lets take that further... The only thing we will ever truly know at death is if Christianity is true.
What do I mean? If there is no God, if my living as a Christian, if all of this is a lie and none of it is real... I'll never know, because at the moment of death, there will be nothingness and I will have no realization of anything. I will just fade to black and be gone forever. I will have lived a joyous life, and lived feeling as though I had a purpose. I will head to my death feeling happy and content that I will be entering the Kingdom of Heaven... and if it does not exist, I'll never know.
If it is true though, at that moment of death, my faith shall become sight! If Christianity is true, then I will head to death with the same joy and contentment, and I will pass from this earth to an eternity with the Creator!
If Christianity is true, those who wait until they die to make a decision will realize that it is too late. Their realization that the Bible is true will end with an eternity separated from the God that loves them. They will not get to enter the peaceful darkness of death, because if Christianity is true, there is no such thing... there is eternity spent if Heaven or Hell.
I envy those who already know the truth about the moment of death, and my heart breaks for those who have waited that long to decide what to believe. I hurt for those who head towards death with fear of the unknown and am glad that I head to mine with joy and confidence that my faith shall become sight.
I lost a patient one day last week. That is something that, sadly, is not a rare occurrence for us, but it was the first one I have had in awhile. It is always interesting to watch family members as they try to decipher and deal with what is happening in their world when something like this happens. There is the expected tears and anger, sometimes there is celebration and gladness. This time, though, something different happened...
As is fairly normal, the family was in our small consultation room, speaking with the Chaplin. The Chaplin soon came and grabbed me out of doing the post-mortem care and said that the family wanted to speak to me so they could get a better idea of what happened. I am more than happy to have this dreadful conversation, it often allows people to cope better and can help with grieving. After I explained the rapid decline and subsequent departure of their loved one, the patient's child said something that floored me...
To paraphrase, "At least he knows the truth about death now"
After the family left, I talked more with the Chaplin and found that this father and child had talked recently about God. Neither of them knew for sure what they believed, and had come to the agreement that they wouldn't really know until they were dead, so they decided they'd just wait til then to decide. My heart broke for this family. It made me realize how very real this type of thinking is. And I just want to say something...
I envy the fact that this patient now knows, without a hint of a doubt, the truth about God. My beliefs and faith are strongly rooted in my convictions and in my day to day relationship with Christ, but I still have days when the doubts circle from the back of my mind to front and center. But lets take that further... The only thing we will ever truly know at death is if Christianity is true.
What do I mean? If there is no God, if my living as a Christian, if all of this is a lie and none of it is real... I'll never know, because at the moment of death, there will be nothingness and I will have no realization of anything. I will just fade to black and be gone forever. I will have lived a joyous life, and lived feeling as though I had a purpose. I will head to my death feeling happy and content that I will be entering the Kingdom of Heaven... and if it does not exist, I'll never know.
If it is true though, at that moment of death, my faith shall become sight! If Christianity is true, then I will head to death with the same joy and contentment, and I will pass from this earth to an eternity with the Creator!
If Christianity is true, those who wait until they die to make a decision will realize that it is too late. Their realization that the Bible is true will end with an eternity separated from the God that loves them. They will not get to enter the peaceful darkness of death, because if Christianity is true, there is no such thing... there is eternity spent if Heaven or Hell.
I envy those who already know the truth about the moment of death, and my heart breaks for those who have waited that long to decide what to believe. I hurt for those who head towards death with fear of the unknown and am glad that I head to mine with joy and confidence that my faith shall become sight.
Thursday, March 31, 2011
3/31/11- Who I am
I found several years ago that if I wake up in the middle of the night and allow my mind to wander, it gets into DEEP existential conversations with itself about the meaning of life, the number of stars in the universe, and one time I devised a system of determining your personality based on your favorite flavor of ice cream... like I said, it gets deep
Well, tonight, or more correctly, this morning, Lydia decided the world was in a tailspin and the only thing that could possibly save her was a mom-style snack... the ensuing cry woke me up from a pretty crazy dream in which I was running through Rome trying to get Paul's autograph, and not McCartney... I'm talking the Apostle
This lead to a recapping in my head about how I have arrived at this point of my life, and it excited me to the point that I felt it necessary to write it down. I have long felt that my own path to salvation and my life from that point was a rather hum-drum story, I was not saved from a life of drugs and murder in an organized crime syndicate. I was not holding mass Christian executions in the backwoods, and I was not stuck in the belly of a fish for 3 days because I refused to follow God's call... I was rather simply saved. But for the last year and call it 4 months, I feel like I have been bombarded by the words and messages of Paul. Every Bible study, every sermon, everything has been seeped in Paul-ness. This is further true about the Wednesday night services lately in which we have been covering the book of Romans. As I have delved deeper into Paul's writings, I have become aware of the awesome power that God used through Christ to rescue me from eternal separation from Him. Even someone, whose salvation was so run-of-the-mill, like me has been rescued an an awesome way. And the power that God displayed in the relatively simple salvation is the same power that He uses to save anyone who calls on His name, no matter where they are, what they've done, or what they are doing.There is no sin that can separate us from God, the only thing that keeps us from an eternal life spent in Heaven is our refusal to accept the gift of Christ which has already been given to us.
So, my story begins long ago... I honestly could not tell you how old I was when I first accepted Christ. I was in a Sunday School class at Second Baptist in Springfield, and I always imagine that I was asking the leader questions about God and she probably made some sort of comment about how if I wanted to be with my mommy and daddy after they died then I had to say this prayer.... and thus I became saved! YIKES! It makes me shudder to think now that I was willing to risk my salvation for so long on that "profession of faith". It was shortly after this experience that my family stopped attending church. I was left to figure out who God was and what my relationship with Him, or His relationship with me was supposed to be like. I don't remember too much about my childhood from a spiritual standpoint up until I was in Jr High. By that time, looking back, I had fallen into a relationship with a Santa Clause Jesus. I can distinctly remember saying these prayers, "God, if you really love me, and if you give me ___________, then I will stop doing ________." I remember feeling at least guilty enough of my sin that I knew I should stop, but I enjoyed these sins so much that I felt God owed me something in return to giving them up... (apparently a rescue from eternal Hell was not enough). As foolish as this sounds to me now, I can't help thinking, "well, what can we expect when our entire theology is based upon what is being taught to the young children in church instead of teaching them truth, we are too afraid we will scare them away from God?" (this gets into a whole other problem I have had with "church" for so long... kids aren't taught the Bible, they are so often taught that God loves them if they are good. Why do you think that leads to so many kids who grow up with horribly based reasons for the faith, or their decision to be an atheist?)
Anyway, I went through childhood with my Santa Claus Jesus, praying regularly that I would stop sinning as soon as I got what I wanted. I think it is really sad how much better my prayer life was then than it is now... but I digress, I remember entering high school, I had some core friends who were Christians and some who were not. My life had not been so bad, and so on... Then along comes Zenobia. We started dating in the spring of our Sophomore year, and thus I began going to church. (for as long as I can remember up to this point, most of my bargains with God involved a girlfriend.) To say I took nothing away from my reintroduction to church would be a bit of an understatement at first. I didn't see how it was necessary to attend a service, I prayed, I was a "good kid". At the same time, I start to feel like there was something more to a relationship with God than what I had been experiencing. I felt like I was still missing something.
Young Christian's Weekend that year, I remember sitting through one of the presentations being made. I don't recall who it was, what he said, or anything. I just remember sitting there with my eyes closed as he was telling us to ask ourselves if we had a meaningful, personal relationship with Christ. I felt as though I had been kicked in the gut. I had no idea that I was supposed to have a relationship with Christ, let alone a personal one. I didn't know He actually cared about me. I just knew He made me feel bad when I did bad things and then He didn't give me what I wanted. My mind was blown! At the age of 15, I knowingly stepped into a relationship with Christ.
Fast forward through the roller coaster of high school, relationships ending, restarting, ending... and I arrived to Mizzou. I was 17, had turned down a spot in the Accelerated Masters of Physical Therapy program because I was going Pre-med. I joined a new group of friends, and found myself suddenly unbound by anyone's whims but my own. There was no longer a person to tell me when to get out of bed, when to go to class, when to go to church, what church to go to, what sunday school class to join... nothing... I fell into destructive habits, I began drinking, I laid around my dorm room, ate alot of food that my parents paid for, and wasted the money they spent on tuition as well. I fell away from the friends I had, stopped attending events at the Campus Christian House. I gained 80 pounds in that one year and ended it broken, and on academic suspension. Looking back, I don't know if I consulted God about any of these things. Apparently I no longer needed Him.
Zenobia had come back into my life towards the end of my year there, and so when I came home on weekends, I began to come back to the church, I found an exciting new person starting to grow inside of me... I was moving forward, moving on, and doing it with God. Zenobia and I became engaged. At the age of 18 I had given up drinking, had lost the first of about 30 pounds, and was asked to help chaperon a youth mission trip to Houston, Texas. I jumped on board. It was an awesome experience, never had I been closer to God. One night during worship, I felt so moved by God's love and the amazing way he was moving my life, I fell to the ground and cried. Little did I know that a few days later, my engagement was going to end. I still don't fully understand the whole event, but I am now thankful for it... My faith was about to be tested again without the context of responsibility to anyone but myself and God. This time, when the ball dropped, I ran to the Bible. I found immense comfort in the words, I found meaning to the split, and reassurance that I would one day be brought back together to Zenobia. God had shown me a story of the need to separate two seeds so that each could grow strong roots and a firm foundation so that one day their branches would meet. (extremely short paraphrase)
I was finally able to attend church on my own, grow my relationship with Christ based on what I needed. I finally officially became a member at FBC-Nixa. I started classes at OTC, trying to find out what I wanted to be when I grew up. At the age of 20, Z and I had found our way back together... we were so different, so much our own individuals. We had grown closer to who God needed each of us to be... we were ready to be together. We became engaged again, and I could not be happier. I was in need of a job, having graduated from OTC with a 4.0 GPA to mend some of the damage of my former self. I found a job at Cox, in the OR... I came home the first day, called Zenobia and told her that I was going to be a nurse. I just knew it. There was that same tug in my gut, that there was something about nursing that was where I needed to be. The drawback was that to go to nursing school and support my new-found family meant that I would have to work every weekend.
It was amazing how fast I became lethargic in my walk with Christ when I stopped attending church. My soul ached for closeness with God. I wanted so badly to keep my relationship with Him strong... but it was too easy to not, and I found the pleasures of sin too enticing. I felt so sick to allow some of my old self back in, but I didn't have the strength or support of a family of believers along side of me to help keep me strong. This part of my life was probably the most spiritually painful, it was the first time I truly knew and felt all of my own sin.And then, I started to baste my sins in pride. I didn't need church, I was strong enough, look at everything I was accomplishing. I got into nursing school... I was going somewhere...
This is about the time that my mom was diagnosed with stage 4 ovarian cancer. She spent 90 days fighting for her life. She suffered nearly every complication imaginable... 2 8 hour surgeries, pulmonary embolus, became septic, both bacterial and fungal, coded a couple times... ruptured her colon, went into DIC. Each of these alone has a mortality rate of greater than 50%, DIC alone has a survival rate of less than 10%. I ran away from myself and back to God, the only place I knew I could find help. And He gave me help... God lead me through verse after verse, reassuring me that mom was going to make it through all of those things. I prayed that whatever happened, that God would heal her in such a way that no one would be able to doubt that it was all His work, and for Hid glory. I conceded that it was not up to me to define God's miracles and it was not up to me to define what healing might be for my mom. I was willing to let her go because I knew that that would be her ultimate healing. I feel that God used her in my life to bring me to a new level of maturity and understanding of how He works. Mom was brought through all of those things and is continuing to fight against her cancer. My hope is that sometime soon, she and dad will again draw close to God and rejoin the church...
After this powerful experience in my life, I hungered even more for my graduation so that I could get back to attending church. I knew how much I needed it. I can not handle life without it. I need the closeness of other believers, and to fellowship with them as the Bible commands me to do. I need corporate worship. I need small group study, so that I can grow and understand the Word. I was so excited when I started coming back to church, and it has been 1 year and about 4 months now, and I am closer to God than I have ever been. I still have the war waging within me, but I know I am on the winning team. Heck, I know that war is already won... Christ secured the victory over 2000 years ago. I have been justified by faith, and I am being sanctified every day drawing nearer to the glorification when I cross into Heaven. I could not imagine walking through life without this hope. My salvation was so simple in terms of the awesome power of God... He loves me so much that he would have gone further and deeper into sin than I ever imagined going, just to remind me of His love. I thank God that he has told us that "Whosoever believes in Him with not perish, but have everlasting Life." And that "All who call on the name of the Lord will be saved."
God thank you that you love sinners. No matter their sin, no matter what they have done, or what they are doing. Thank you that the only sin that can be committed that cannot be forgiven is dying without saying yes to the free gift you have already given. All we have to do is accept it... Thank you God that you never let go, you never give up, you never fail, and you are never too far away.
Well, tonight, or more correctly, this morning, Lydia decided the world was in a tailspin and the only thing that could possibly save her was a mom-style snack... the ensuing cry woke me up from a pretty crazy dream in which I was running through Rome trying to get Paul's autograph, and not McCartney... I'm talking the Apostle
This lead to a recapping in my head about how I have arrived at this point of my life, and it excited me to the point that I felt it necessary to write it down. I have long felt that my own path to salvation and my life from that point was a rather hum-drum story, I was not saved from a life of drugs and murder in an organized crime syndicate. I was not holding mass Christian executions in the backwoods, and I was not stuck in the belly of a fish for 3 days because I refused to follow God's call... I was rather simply saved. But for the last year and call it 4 months, I feel like I have been bombarded by the words and messages of Paul. Every Bible study, every sermon, everything has been seeped in Paul-ness. This is further true about the Wednesday night services lately in which we have been covering the book of Romans. As I have delved deeper into Paul's writings, I have become aware of the awesome power that God used through Christ to rescue me from eternal separation from Him. Even someone, whose salvation was so run-of-the-mill, like me has been rescued an an awesome way. And the power that God displayed in the relatively simple salvation is the same power that He uses to save anyone who calls on His name, no matter where they are, what they've done, or what they are doing.There is no sin that can separate us from God, the only thing that keeps us from an eternal life spent in Heaven is our refusal to accept the gift of Christ which has already been given to us.
So, my story begins long ago... I honestly could not tell you how old I was when I first accepted Christ. I was in a Sunday School class at Second Baptist in Springfield, and I always imagine that I was asking the leader questions about God and she probably made some sort of comment about how if I wanted to be with my mommy and daddy after they died then I had to say this prayer.... and thus I became saved! YIKES! It makes me shudder to think now that I was willing to risk my salvation for so long on that "profession of faith". It was shortly after this experience that my family stopped attending church. I was left to figure out who God was and what my relationship with Him, or His relationship with me was supposed to be like. I don't remember too much about my childhood from a spiritual standpoint up until I was in Jr High. By that time, looking back, I had fallen into a relationship with a Santa Clause Jesus. I can distinctly remember saying these prayers, "God, if you really love me, and if you give me ___________, then I will stop doing ________." I remember feeling at least guilty enough of my sin that I knew I should stop, but I enjoyed these sins so much that I felt God owed me something in return to giving them up... (apparently a rescue from eternal Hell was not enough). As foolish as this sounds to me now, I can't help thinking, "well, what can we expect when our entire theology is based upon what is being taught to the young children in church instead of teaching them truth, we are too afraid we will scare them away from God?" (this gets into a whole other problem I have had with "church" for so long... kids aren't taught the Bible, they are so often taught that God loves them if they are good. Why do you think that leads to so many kids who grow up with horribly based reasons for the faith, or their decision to be an atheist?)
Anyway, I went through childhood with my Santa Claus Jesus, praying regularly that I would stop sinning as soon as I got what I wanted. I think it is really sad how much better my prayer life was then than it is now... but I digress, I remember entering high school, I had some core friends who were Christians and some who were not. My life had not been so bad, and so on... Then along comes Zenobia. We started dating in the spring of our Sophomore year, and thus I began going to church. (for as long as I can remember up to this point, most of my bargains with God involved a girlfriend.) To say I took nothing away from my reintroduction to church would be a bit of an understatement at first. I didn't see how it was necessary to attend a service, I prayed, I was a "good kid". At the same time, I start to feel like there was something more to a relationship with God than what I had been experiencing. I felt like I was still missing something.
Young Christian's Weekend that year, I remember sitting through one of the presentations being made. I don't recall who it was, what he said, or anything. I just remember sitting there with my eyes closed as he was telling us to ask ourselves if we had a meaningful, personal relationship with Christ. I felt as though I had been kicked in the gut. I had no idea that I was supposed to have a relationship with Christ, let alone a personal one. I didn't know He actually cared about me. I just knew He made me feel bad when I did bad things and then He didn't give me what I wanted. My mind was blown! At the age of 15, I knowingly stepped into a relationship with Christ.
Fast forward through the roller coaster of high school, relationships ending, restarting, ending... and I arrived to Mizzou. I was 17, had turned down a spot in the Accelerated Masters of Physical Therapy program because I was going Pre-med. I joined a new group of friends, and found myself suddenly unbound by anyone's whims but my own. There was no longer a person to tell me when to get out of bed, when to go to class, when to go to church, what church to go to, what sunday school class to join... nothing... I fell into destructive habits, I began drinking, I laid around my dorm room, ate alot of food that my parents paid for, and wasted the money they spent on tuition as well. I fell away from the friends I had, stopped attending events at the Campus Christian House. I gained 80 pounds in that one year and ended it broken, and on academic suspension. Looking back, I don't know if I consulted God about any of these things. Apparently I no longer needed Him.
Zenobia had come back into my life towards the end of my year there, and so when I came home on weekends, I began to come back to the church, I found an exciting new person starting to grow inside of me... I was moving forward, moving on, and doing it with God. Zenobia and I became engaged. At the age of 18 I had given up drinking, had lost the first of about 30 pounds, and was asked to help chaperon a youth mission trip to Houston, Texas. I jumped on board. It was an awesome experience, never had I been closer to God. One night during worship, I felt so moved by God's love and the amazing way he was moving my life, I fell to the ground and cried. Little did I know that a few days later, my engagement was going to end. I still don't fully understand the whole event, but I am now thankful for it... My faith was about to be tested again without the context of responsibility to anyone but myself and God. This time, when the ball dropped, I ran to the Bible. I found immense comfort in the words, I found meaning to the split, and reassurance that I would one day be brought back together to Zenobia. God had shown me a story of the need to separate two seeds so that each could grow strong roots and a firm foundation so that one day their branches would meet. (extremely short paraphrase)
I was finally able to attend church on my own, grow my relationship with Christ based on what I needed. I finally officially became a member at FBC-Nixa. I started classes at OTC, trying to find out what I wanted to be when I grew up. At the age of 20, Z and I had found our way back together... we were so different, so much our own individuals. We had grown closer to who God needed each of us to be... we were ready to be together. We became engaged again, and I could not be happier. I was in need of a job, having graduated from OTC with a 4.0 GPA to mend some of the damage of my former self. I found a job at Cox, in the OR... I came home the first day, called Zenobia and told her that I was going to be a nurse. I just knew it. There was that same tug in my gut, that there was something about nursing that was where I needed to be. The drawback was that to go to nursing school and support my new-found family meant that I would have to work every weekend.
It was amazing how fast I became lethargic in my walk with Christ when I stopped attending church. My soul ached for closeness with God. I wanted so badly to keep my relationship with Him strong... but it was too easy to not, and I found the pleasures of sin too enticing. I felt so sick to allow some of my old self back in, but I didn't have the strength or support of a family of believers along side of me to help keep me strong. This part of my life was probably the most spiritually painful, it was the first time I truly knew and felt all of my own sin.And then, I started to baste my sins in pride. I didn't need church, I was strong enough, look at everything I was accomplishing. I got into nursing school... I was going somewhere...
This is about the time that my mom was diagnosed with stage 4 ovarian cancer. She spent 90 days fighting for her life. She suffered nearly every complication imaginable... 2 8 hour surgeries, pulmonary embolus, became septic, both bacterial and fungal, coded a couple times... ruptured her colon, went into DIC. Each of these alone has a mortality rate of greater than 50%, DIC alone has a survival rate of less than 10%. I ran away from myself and back to God, the only place I knew I could find help. And He gave me help... God lead me through verse after verse, reassuring me that mom was going to make it through all of those things. I prayed that whatever happened, that God would heal her in such a way that no one would be able to doubt that it was all His work, and for Hid glory. I conceded that it was not up to me to define God's miracles and it was not up to me to define what healing might be for my mom. I was willing to let her go because I knew that that would be her ultimate healing. I feel that God used her in my life to bring me to a new level of maturity and understanding of how He works. Mom was brought through all of those things and is continuing to fight against her cancer. My hope is that sometime soon, she and dad will again draw close to God and rejoin the church...
After this powerful experience in my life, I hungered even more for my graduation so that I could get back to attending church. I knew how much I needed it. I can not handle life without it. I need the closeness of other believers, and to fellowship with them as the Bible commands me to do. I need corporate worship. I need small group study, so that I can grow and understand the Word. I was so excited when I started coming back to church, and it has been 1 year and about 4 months now, and I am closer to God than I have ever been. I still have the war waging within me, but I know I am on the winning team. Heck, I know that war is already won... Christ secured the victory over 2000 years ago. I have been justified by faith, and I am being sanctified every day drawing nearer to the glorification when I cross into Heaven. I could not imagine walking through life without this hope. My salvation was so simple in terms of the awesome power of God... He loves me so much that he would have gone further and deeper into sin than I ever imagined going, just to remind me of His love. I thank God that he has told us that "Whosoever believes in Him with not perish, but have everlasting Life." And that "All who call on the name of the Lord will be saved."
God thank you that you love sinners. No matter their sin, no matter what they have done, or what they are doing. Thank you that the only sin that can be committed that cannot be forgiven is dying without saying yes to the free gift you have already given. All we have to do is accept it... Thank you God that you never let go, you never give up, you never fail, and you are never too far away.
Monday, March 28, 2011
3/28/11- A Hurtful Burden
A hurtful burden has been floating around my heart lately, and is something I should be spending more time in prayer about than what I do. It is a burden for those many people out there who are atheist, agnostic, or Christians who have turned from God. To be a lot more specific, it is for those who have made these choices because of actions of Christians. I'm talking about those of us who fail so miserably at properly representing the gospel of Christ that we cause people pain. The people who chose to turn from God because of a Sunday School teacher, a Christian friend, pastor, parent, or other loved one. We all know these people. The ones who have turned the Gospel into an argument of preferences and policies, and have long forgotten the words of God. The ones who will turn someone away because of the sin in their life instead of lovingly embracing them and helping them find the path away from those sins. The people who forgot what it was like to be lost as a slave to our own flesh.
We, as Christians, have to get back to living the gospel. Jesus never turned away anyone, he loved and embraced everyone. He drew a hard line on sin, and He never wavered. If the church would treat people like Jesus, I think fewer people would chose to not believe
We, as Christians, have to get back to living the gospel. Jesus never turned away anyone, he loved and embraced everyone. He drew a hard line on sin, and He never wavered. If the church would treat people like Jesus, I think fewer people would chose to not believe
Sunday, March 27, 2011
3/27/2011- Ghandi was a smart dude
"I like your Christ, I do not like your Christians, your Christians are nothing like your Christ." -Ghandi
This is a quote I have known for some time, and have always admired the eloquence of Ghandi's words. This last Sunday, this quote was included in our Men's class lesson and it struck a slightly new nerve with me... Ghandi is right.
Approximately 2.1 billion people on this planet claim Christianity... if there were even 1/4 that many people who were truly following Christ, would the world even be recognizable? Lets even cut that down to the 76% of Americans who claim Christianity, that is approximately 225,000,000 people over the age of 18. Lets say that the average income for these people is $20,000, if we gave the 10% to tithing that we are called to do, American giving alone would be in the neighborhood of $5,500,000,000,000... every year. But that is somewhat of a different topic...
Why are we so apprehensive to be Christ-like in our everyday lives? Do we believe Christ is irrelevant for our current world? Is it too hard?
Relevance- Christ's life was spent serving the poor, oppressed people around Him, aiding the sick, feeding the hungry, and showing the people He came in contact with that God loved them. How is that message not relevant to our world? Are there no more poor, hungry, and sick? Do people no longer need to know that God loves them? So, our lack of Christ-like living should not be coming from a lack of need... so, de-bunk this one
Too hard- This one would probably be where I have hidden most of the time. It is just too difficult for me to get outside of my comfort zone and treat someone with the attitude of Christ. It is too tiring to act like I care about some of the idiots in the world. I don't want to pretend to be someone else, I want to be me! Doing anything else requires too much effort on my part, and surely God doesn't want that, right?
... I think the biggest thing that has been working on me in this area in my life is becoming a parent. I didn't become a parent because I thought, "Hey, here's an easy way to get a tax break!" Being a parent, even for these 9 months has been the single most challenging thing I have ever done. I have to shred my wants and my ego, out of love for this perfect little girl in my life. My importance pales in comparison to making sure that she has everything she needs. My identity is no longer the focus. Its hard, but totally worth it.The hard things in life aren't so hard when love is behind them.
So, why do we still struggle... how can we, to quote Ghandi again, "Be the change we wish to see in the world"?
This is a quote I have known for some time, and have always admired the eloquence of Ghandi's words. This last Sunday, this quote was included in our Men's class lesson and it struck a slightly new nerve with me... Ghandi is right.
Approximately 2.1 billion people on this planet claim Christianity... if there were even 1/4 that many people who were truly following Christ, would the world even be recognizable? Lets even cut that down to the 76% of Americans who claim Christianity, that is approximately 225,000,000 people over the age of 18. Lets say that the average income for these people is $20,000, if we gave the 10% to tithing that we are called to do, American giving alone would be in the neighborhood of $5,500,000,000,000... every year. But that is somewhat of a different topic...
Why are we so apprehensive to be Christ-like in our everyday lives? Do we believe Christ is irrelevant for our current world? Is it too hard?
Relevance- Christ's life was spent serving the poor, oppressed people around Him, aiding the sick, feeding the hungry, and showing the people He came in contact with that God loved them. How is that message not relevant to our world? Are there no more poor, hungry, and sick? Do people no longer need to know that God loves them? So, our lack of Christ-like living should not be coming from a lack of need... so, de-bunk this one
Too hard- This one would probably be where I have hidden most of the time. It is just too difficult for me to get outside of my comfort zone and treat someone with the attitude of Christ. It is too tiring to act like I care about some of the idiots in the world. I don't want to pretend to be someone else, I want to be me! Doing anything else requires too much effort on my part, and surely God doesn't want that, right?
... I think the biggest thing that has been working on me in this area in my life is becoming a parent. I didn't become a parent because I thought, "Hey, here's an easy way to get a tax break!" Being a parent, even for these 9 months has been the single most challenging thing I have ever done. I have to shred my wants and my ego, out of love for this perfect little girl in my life. My importance pales in comparison to making sure that she has everything she needs. My identity is no longer the focus. Its hard, but totally worth it.The hard things in life aren't so hard when love is behind them.
So, why do we still struggle... how can we, to quote Ghandi again, "Be the change we wish to see in the world"?
Late night in the ICU- 3/27/11
I think I might have a problem with humility... ok, I know I do, but still, do I have to admit it so readily?
This issue seems to crop up most readily while I am working. I made a comment to a fellow nurse about be "like a doctor". Thats not the ego-maniac side of it, its the fact that when told that I put my pants on like everyone else, I replied... "Nope, my pants are place onto me by songbirds"
Its an obvious joke and shameless Cinderella plug, but even still... I often treat others as though I believe that I am really that special. I'm working on it, but it will take some time. I spent most of my early life with people telling me how special I am, then the middle part being told how much of a screw-up I am... so now I suppose I am over-compensating.
I hope to update while working from time to time... things often get crazy or funny when its late in the ICU
This issue seems to crop up most readily while I am working. I made a comment to a fellow nurse about be "like a doctor". Thats not the ego-maniac side of it, its the fact that when told that I put my pants on like everyone else, I replied... "Nope, my pants are place onto me by songbirds"
Its an obvious joke and shameless Cinderella plug, but even still... I often treat others as though I believe that I am really that special. I'm working on it, but it will take some time. I spent most of my early life with people telling me how special I am, then the middle part being told how much of a screw-up I am... so now I suppose I am over-compensating.
I hope to update while working from time to time... things often get crazy or funny when its late in the ICU
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